The sorrow of a profound loss, such as that of a spouse or child, never dissipates completely. I don't believe that "time heals all wounds". When an integral part of your life is taken from you, it is like an appendage from your very body has been ripped off, and once that happens you must go through life without it. What time DOES do, is give us the coping skills to compensate, and to get through life without that appendage. So, more than "getting over" loss, it is better said that we evolve, we increase our understanding, our compassion, our appreciation for what remains.
Reinventing onself after loss is a necessity, for life is no longer the familiar pattern we were used to. It has changed, and it is changed forever. We are now corageous and will forge a new life, a strong life, an important life, and make our lives matter the best way they can, in loving memory of those we may have lost.
So while time does not take away the sorrow, it does give us a new realization of what we are made of. We are made of courage, integrity, strength, honesty, goodness. And from here on it we will put one foot in front of the other and go forward.
Please write and let me know the lessons in your lost, how you put one foot in front of the other and rebuilt your life. Post your comments below.
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